Not too long ago, I found myself in a room full of women being taught how to cultivate and build to an earth-shattering climax, a hands-off, breath and energy-centred orgasm.
Yep! You read that right.
New York City for me was a series of almost out of body experiences, some a little eyebrow raising, most the pure deliciousness that comes from exploring a brandy new city, a few of each which tipped my world a little on it’s axis … this was one of those.
Now being that I was crewing at this event and not a participant, the panting, squirming, eyes-squeezed-firmly-shut earthiness of this scene quite literally took my breath away. I signed up to crew a retreat and ended up feeling one part voyeur, one part ‘can’t take my eyes off you’ peeping tom.
You know like that car wreck you know you should not look at, but you just can’t resist staring?
It got me to thinking …. why is that is it that the topics of orgasm, sexuality, pleasuring yourself, intimacy and simple pleasures in life are not given space in average society. We are taught about the value of money. About the value of ‘getting ahead’, the value of accumulating material possessions.
Yet, for the main part we don’t talk openly about the true value of nourishing yourself with a life saturated in pleasure – sexual, sensual, deep connection, time outdoors in nature, sipping a cup of tea in the sun.
How have these become less important than the doing, pushing, striving things that so many identify as success?
By not giving ourselves permission to talk about, to learn about, to experience pleasure in all of it’s forms, we are robbing ourselves of the real juiciness life has to offer. It narrows our experience to what is serious, more acceptable, more ‘normal’ and yet most of us are yearning for sweet release from the daily grind.
Isn’t it time you gave yourself permission to feel good, to immerse yourself in pleasure?
In the last fortnight, my weekly focus list has had four columns, one of which is pleasure. So far I have made space for more sex, more time out in the sun, more family fun, more coffee catchups with friends and more silent time to just be. And the result? Those other three doing columns happen far more easily, far more in flow and with far less self induced pressure.
When pleasure becomes a daily driver, life is more YUM and less MEH!
So what about you? What’s on your pleasure menu that you can make space for in the next week? I would love to hear in the comments below…
Here’s to your Delicious Life!
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